In time, however, the 21st century happened, and a new era of Sex and the City feminism entered. Suddenly, women were saying, yeah, we can be slutty, just like guys. After all, guys go out and try to get laid and brag about it, and society encourages them to do so. I’m going to do that too! Suddenly, you had college girls tweeting about blowjobs and wearing their sexuality on their sleeves, thinking that they were supposed to go out and ride the world for the sisters or they were somehow being oppressed. And though I would imagine this brand of feminism is a lot better for guys looking to get laid, it still makes me sad. It’s still putting a pressure on women that shouldn’t be there.
The whole premise is wrong. Yes, men are jealous of guys who get a lot of women, but women are wrong to think it’s a trait that garners much respect. No one says, “We need to calm corporate unrest — be sure to tell the shareholders how much tang our new CEO is getting.” It might surprise women, but do you know what we call guys who go out and try to screw everything? Whores. Know what we call the guy who’s always going on and on about all the women he’s landed? An asshole. And in my experience, even guys who are legitimately good at having a bunch of promiscuous sex wouldn’t make a big show of it.
It’s a subtle distinction. Yes, feminism is about women having the same right as men to be irresponsible, brash and slutty, I’ll agree. But being brash, irresponsible and slutty doesn’t make you a feminist. It doesn’t make you empowered. It just makes you as irresponsible, brash and slutty as some of the dudes we don’t like."